COUPLES
Couples come into therapy for a wide range of reasons. With my specialties treating sex-related concerns and sex/porn addiction, couples often seek my support due to a dissatisfying sex life or after devastating emotional/sexual betrayals.
Are you or your partner struggling with sex, porn, or infidelity? Have you found yourselves stuck in a cycle of feeling disconnected or having the same arguments? Do you sometimes think your partner does not “get it” and feel confused about how they process things? Underneath the conflict, we all want to feel heard, understood, and appreciated by our partner. We want to know that our partner has our back.
I encourage you to begin couples therapy with your partner the first time either one of you considers it. The longer the gap between your first conversation about couples therapy and your first couples therapy session, the more work you will likely need to do together. It is never too early to go to couples therapy - better to be proactive rather than reactive. Unfortunately, many couples wait until their relationship is hanging on by a thread.
While some of the couples I support are 3-5 years into their relationship, the majority of the couples I see have been together for 20-30+ years. We all bring some emotional baggage into our relationships - sometimes, it is a small carry-on that can fit snugly under the seat in front of you; other times, it is an oversized luggage bursting at the seams. For the health of your relationship (and your own sanity), it is an invaluable skillset to practice curiosity and compassion as you unpack these bags together, because these bags often house hidden wounds that are playing out in present day. The healthiest relationships aren’t void of conflict - they are the ones that learn how to repair and reconnect after the inevitable conflict happens.
Couples therapy does not mean your relationship is a failure - it is an investment into yourselves and your relationship. It is saying, “We matter and our relationship matters.” What a beautiful gift. I create space and structure for you and your partner to communicate more openly and effectively as we work towards (re)building intimacy and connection. This is deep work, and I’m here to guide you through it.
I can support you and your partner with:
Restoring trust and intimacy
Healing from the pain of betrayal
Communicating assertively and effectively
Discussing sex with greater comfort and ease
Reigniting pleasurable sex
Managing sexual difficulties (e.g., painful sex, early ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, lack of desire + arousal)
Managing a sexless relationship
Impacts of asexuality
Discrepancy regarding being child-free vs. having children
Pregnancy and postpartum care
Miscarriages and infertility
Balancing work, children, and your relationship
Co-parenting effectively
Impacts of perimenopause and menopause on your relationship
Co-creating your ideal relationship agreement
Impacts of neurodiversity on your relationship
LGBTQIA+ affirmative care
Nontraditional relationships (e.g., polyamory, consensual non-monogamy)
Practicing safe BDSM and kink
Premarital counseling
Conscious uncoupling and therapeutic separation